Below you will find  a few hadeeth which give a very brief description on how the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam spent time with his wives. This is important so that you will know what to ask the brother. Is he going to be affectionate and playful with you as the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam did with his wives?
Aisha narrated in Sahih Muslim #0986 One night I missed Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam from the bed, and when I sought him my hand touched the soles of his feet while he was in the state of prostration; they (feet) were raised and he was saying: "O Allah, I seek refuge in Thy pleasure from Thy anger, and in Thy forgiveness from thy punishment, and I seek refuge in Thee from Thee (Thy anger). I cannot reckon Thy praise. Thou art as Thou hast lauded Thyself."
Aisha narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #1.296 The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam used to lean on my lap and recite Qur'an while I was in menses.
Aisha narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #3.150 Allah's Apostle sallallahu alayhe wa sallam used to kiss some of his wives while he was fasting, and then she smiled.
Aisha narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #1.492 I used to sleep in front of Allah's Apostle sallallahu alayhe wa sallam with my legs opposite his Qiblah (facing him); and whenever he prostrated, he pushed my feet and I withdrew them and whenever he stood, I stretched them. Aisha added, "In those days there were no lamps in the house."
Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin narrated in Abu Dawud #2572 while she was on a journey along with the Apostle of Allah sallallahu alayhe wa sallam : I had a race with him (the Prophet) and I outstripped him on my feet. When I became fleshy, (again) I had a race with him (the Prophet) and he outstripped me. He said: This is for that outstripping.
Uqbah ibn Amir narrated in Mishkat Al-Masabih #3872 Uqbah heard Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam say, "Allah most high will cause three people to enter Paradise for one arrow: the maker when he has a good motive in making it, the one who shoots it, and the one who hands it; so shoot and ride, but your shooting is more appreciated by me than your riding. Everything with which a man amuses himself is vain, except his shooting with his bow, his training of his horse, and his playing with his wife, for they pertain to what is right." Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah transmitted it, and AbuDawud and Darimi added, "If anyone abandons archery after becoming an adept through distaste for it, it is a blessing he has abandoned," or he said "for which he has been ungrateful."

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